By Ajok Ngong Ayuen
“Our family is a circle of strength of love with every birth and every union the circle grows.” “There is no doubt that it is around the family and the home that all the greatest virtues… are created, strengthened and maintained.” –Winston Churchill.
Family is valuable gift of our life. Its individual design, everyone has his/her own way he/she wants their family to look like and it’s responsibility of both partners to either make it the best family or not.
Love each other but not a common love everyone says and end in just less than a year. Love your partner without looking at your back, there is nothing left behind. Just focus on your future dreams.
Handle your partner with care and be scared to lose him/her. Look after him/her when he/she is sick, but not a partner who think of something else to do apart from taking care of his/her partner.
In every family, there must be fighting arguing, but having conflict can’t prevent you from making a best family. Even your own mother can have problem with you but still can solve. The same thing applies, learn to handle your conflict.
Telling your secrets to outsiders wouldn’t help you progressing at all. they spread to the whole society. And they will either destroy your family or replace you not even a best family. Keep your secrets at your family level no matter how big it is if you need a best family.
Accept each other with whole your heart regardless his/her weaknesses. We known that no-one is perfect but you have to concentrate on his/her strength leaving the negative one. A family where by people concentrate on individual positive side is the best family.
Family is a family but not a military base where by everything is command. Everyone has a right to express his/her ideas, explain to your partner in a good manner why you wanted this and that to be done. For example, if you want to marry then tell her the reason why you wanted another wife and also you wanted to further your studies tell him to why you wanted to go back to school regardless of his educational background. And he/her will understand.
No one wish to be poor but if your time has not come then be patient. Don’t compare yourself with other families. Be happy with the little you have. It’s not because you are weak but because it’s not yet your time.
Be committed to your family, work hard and use the little you get to your family. Don’t be that kind of person who likes spending outside then his family. remember charity begins at home.
Make decisions together so that you should not blame yourselves, don’t listen to allegations about your partner some of them are enemies of progress, put your family first, believe in yourselves that you are the best couple, and you will make a best family. It’s not too late to make your family great again.