𝗦𝗼𝘂𝘁𝗵 𝗦𝘂𝗱𝗮𝗻𝗲𝘀𝗲 𝗺𝗮𝗿𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗱 𝗺𝗲𝗻 𝘀𝘆𝗻𝗱𝗿𝗼𝗺𝗲
By Thuch Kabaye
– Slave-Wife Mentality.
It’s not funny to know that many married South Sudan men see women as slaves, servants, or something close to that. They believe women are good for nothing or lesser-known humans. They view them as sex, baby-making, house chores, and cooking machines. Most men operate with that kind of mentality with their naive wives.
Many believe a respectful wife should only be seen but not heard. It’s hilarious the way our Junubin men treat their wives. I’m pretty sure 90% of South Sudan married men do not know how to cook, do basic house chores, babysitting and so on. The “sit and wait to eat” attitude is the elephant in the room among most Junubin men.
– Sperm donor Mentality.
Most Junubin men, if not all, are more-or-less sperm donors in their marriages. Apart from getting tingling their wives pregnant, they have no other roles in childbearing and rearing. Whenever babies cry, it’s prevalent to hear a Junubin man saying, “come and carry your baby, don’t you hear your baby is crying?” In our modern homes, most of the time only women attend children’s parties in the schools, only mothers attend PTA meetings and other events in the schools. Men think they are too busy when in a real sense they are doing absolutely nothing, only playing ludo, dominos, cards, and other time-wasting games.
– Men-Sex Mentality.
Lots of Junubin men also believe sex is for men and not women. They fathoms that women should not enjoy it; hence they approach their wives with horse rider mindset. They have no plans or whatsoever to make their wives want sex but to do their things, enjoy themselves, and go their way. Sex, as most Junubin men view it, is just but to undressed a woman and penetrates into “paradise” not knowing that sex has ingredients. They grab their wives and begin to sleep with them; no romance, no foreplay, no sweet or kind words, etc. This is very unwise and unkind to the dignity of women. Sex is the only bond God created to bring out love, satisfaction, affection, pleasure, and togetherness between a man and a woman. Junubin men should not abuse this privilege.
– Class Teacher Mentality.
Many South Sudanese men believe their wives have nothing to offer; they think they’re wiser, more robust, and better than their wives. So they develop what I called “class teacher mentality” whereby they are only ready to teach, lecture and tutor their wives on almost everything. To them, their wives should not advise them.
This is very wrong of Junubin men; God planted a wife in your life to complete you and to give you the much-needed companionship. If you don’t give your wife a listening ear, then you’re missing a lot.
– Finally, Wife Battering Mentality.
In some parts of Junub Sudan, wife battering is seen as a norm, and so many men are in this vicious habit. Some women were maimed or even killed in the process.
I wonder what kind of man will beat a woman he promised to love, care and cherished if not an animal-like man. Wife battering is uncivilized and should be condemned in the strongest term possible by all. Our women should be respected and encouraged to render a helping hand in raising cohesive and prosperous families.
Junubin men should wake up to the reality of modern life and improve their relational ability at home, loving, supporting, and caring to become better husbands and fathers.